Murray

Murray M. Fuhrer - Writer, Facilitator, Speaker

Positive self-esteem operates as our emotional immune system!

Positive self-esteem operates as our emotional immune system, providing resistance, strength, and a capacity for regeneration. In the same way a strong physical immune system defends us against disease; our emotional immune system helps us to feel secure and confident in times of stress and allows us to respond appropriately to challenges and opportunities. Positive self-esteem empowers, energizes, and motivates us to greatness.

WHAT IF?

“Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed.”

– Michael Pritchard, keynote speaker and facilitator

The water was getting deeper and I thought, “What if I die?”

It was 1965. So much snow had fallen that winter that drifts covered the tops of the highest fence posts. My mother has a picture of my brother and I sitting on a snowdrift as high as our porch roof. When spring finally arrived, the melting snow filled rivers, creeks, and dugouts to overflowing – whole sections of roadways washed away.

A neighbouring family came to help us move cattle that spring. As water had already crossed the road near the meadow, father met them at the intersection of the main road with a tractor and grain wagon. All piled in the wagon for a slow ride to the farm.

By late afternoon, the road was impassible, even by tractor, drowned beneath a foot or more of fast flowing water. Father had to take the neighbours back to their vehicle, so he decided to strike off across country with tractor and wagon, through the fields, to the main road. I was allowed to ride along this time.

The tractor and wagon lurched along the trail leading to the east pasture. Before long, we were heading across country – water cascading off the big back tractor tires.

The excitement and anxiety of the trip reminded me of a carnival ride and kept my heart skipping beats and my eyes wide open. As the water grew deeper, I began to count all the possible ways I could die. My mind was filled with “what ifs.”

At one point, the back wheel of the tractor dropped into a hole, throwing father up against the fender. The wagon pitched and shuddered, tossing us violently back and forth.

Eventually, we left the water behind and were soon rolling down the gravel road on route to the intersection. The ride home was less stressful – free of “what ifs.”

The “what if” game can immobilize us – freeze us with its frightening possibilities. Have you ever noticed that the “what if” game is like an elevator that always takes you to the bottom floor – the lowest place that we could possibly go? The elevator doesn’t stop at the middle floors, giving us a chance to consider alternatives.

Fears and doubts settle in and, before we know it, we’re procrastinating – or worse yet finding ourselves in a state of paralysis where we can’t seem to do anything at all.

As long as I can remember, a ceramic plaque has hung in my mother’s kitchen. Writ-ten on it is the Serenity Prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

New York Yankees outfielder Mickey Rivers put it this way: “There ain’t no sense worrying about things you got no control over.”

When you stop worrying, when you stop playing the “what if” game, you begin to see situations clearly and can choose an effective, well considered strategy. The truth is, most of the “what if” scenarios I have imagined over the years simply never happened. My anxieties and worries proved unfounded. I have forgotten most of the fears that once kept me awake at night.

As with that ride in the wagon so many years ago, letting go of the “what ifs” made the experience enjoyable. I suspect the same can be said about that “what if” that worries you.

LENGTH OF SESSIONS:

Sessions can be tailored/offered as short keynotes, 1/2 or 1 day workshops

or workshops over a number of days.

FURTHER COMMENTS:

"I left feeling as though a huge weight had been lifted off my heart.

I felt so much lighter and I did not expect this feeling to last - but it did!"

"I felt so free - invincible - confident and assured - powerful and in control of my life."

"Murray - you rule! I want to take more of your workshops. I will definitely recommend them to friends."

I'D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!

Contact Murray Fuhrer - Extreme Esteem Workshops - using one of the methods

below to discuss how he can help you unleash your full potential.

EXTREME ESTEEM WORKSHOPSVISIT THE EXTREME ESTEEM

Call 1-403-348-1299

COLUMN ARCHIVE

E-Mail: murray@extremeesteem.ca

"Low self-esteem is the common thread in most - if not all personal distress. Positive self-esteem empowers, energizes, and motivates us to greatness!"

~ Murray Fuhrer (Read what Pat Lynch - North America's leading authority on XtremeChange had to say about Extreme Esteem by Murray M. Fuhrer)

EXTREME ESTEEM WORKSHOPS (Visit the Column Archive)

Self-esteem is critical to cope with the basic challenges of life and to feel worthy of happiness. But many of us lack confidence in our abilities and have low self-esteem. You have a right to be happy and are deserving of success, friendship, respect, love, and fulfillment.

MURRAY TEACHES HIS PARTICIPANTS TO:

Recognize their right to be happy ...

Learn to feel deserving of success ...

Gain confidence in their natural abilities ...

Recognize the self-defeating games we all play ...

Change bad emotional programming ...

Take responsibility for their own success ...

Break repetitive patterns of behavior ...

UNLIKE MANY OTHER SPEAKERS IN THE FIELD ...

Murray teaches powerful, proven, reality-based techniques for personal change with NO hype or questionable "quick fix" systems. Murray provides real and solid help for every individual looking to make permanent and positive changes in their life.

HERE'S WHAT PARTICIPANTS SAY ABOUT MURRAY FUHRER ...

"...you have added a new dimension to my life, which will serve me well in developing my own self-esteem and in the pursuit of helping others to achieve their utmost potential."

Glenn H. Allen - Founder of the Self-Esteem Society for Central Alberta

"...this was wonderful - you opened my eyes and heart to new ideas. I think you are a wise individual who is very capable."

Leslie Allen - Workshop Participant

"Another awesome presentation. You are the Buddha!"

Greg Rudy - First Line Pharmacy

"It is indescribable how much I learned and how positive the entire experience was ... ."

Sharon Holoboff - Teacher

“Murray is unbeleivable in his skills and ablility to help individuals and businesses to improve. I have used Murray’s services with one of my companies and was extremely impressed with the results we achieved. I have had the honour to share the stage with Murray and he is also an AWESOME presenter. I highly recommand Murray, to anyone who wants to improve their life.”

Michael Fletcher CEO Neworld Coaching.

IS MURRAY FUHRER RIGHT FOR YOUR EVENT?

Murray is right for your event when:

1) Your audience is passionate about building/enhancing their self-esteem.

2) Your audience is interested in unleashing their full potential.

MURRAY'S PRESENTATION STYLE:

Murray provides a wealth of clear, concise, and practical information on building your self-esteem packed into a simple, lucid, and detailed presentation. Interjecting humour and insightful stories into each presentation, Murray skillfully communicates self-esteem concepts and principles. Murray will give you the tools you need and show you how to use them! Murray is able to field questions and provide on-the-spot creative ideas for any industry.

MURRAY'S PHILOSOPHY:

Murray's philosophy about building self-esteem contains the following key points:

Low self-esteem is the common thread in most, and perhaps all personal distress.

How we feel about ourselves impacts every moment of our lives.

Self-evaluation is the basis upon which we act and react - choose our values, set our goals, and meet the challenges of life.

Who and what we think we are - how competent and worthy we perceive ourselves as being - shapes our responses to events.

Positive self-esteem empowers, energizes, and motivates us to greatness.

Of all the judgements we pass in life, none is more significant than the judgement we pass upon ourselves.

SHORT BIOGRAPHY:

Murray Fuhrer has been a professional writer and broadcaster in Western Canada for over twenty-five years. He has written an estimated one million words of advertising copy and received national recognition for his many radio campaigns. Murray has seen hundreds of articles published in local, regional, and national publications, written countless short stories, and two young adult novels. His latest book - Extreme Esteem - based upon his highly successful column of the same name, will be published in 2007. Murray is a certified master hypnotist - performing at venues across Alberta each year. The Owner and Director of Advanced Hypnosis Seminars and Extreme Esteem Workshops - Murray teaches a four-tier course in Ethical Hypnosis and the self-esteem and personal empowerment workshop - Extreme Esteem. His regular weekly column (Extreme Esteem) in the Red Deer Advocate and Central Alberta Life reaches over 52 thousand households weekly and features practical advice on improving your self-esteem. Murray's work on self-talk was recently featured in a publication by Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Alliance - a multi-disciplinary group of professional and advocacy organizations that provide educational resources to medical and healthcare professionals, individuals diagnosed with PTSD and their loved ones, the general public and the media.

THE TOPICS: (Visit the Archive for additional themes)

In addition to his weekend long Extreme Esteem Workshop, Murray can customize sessions for almost any group. Here are a few topics covered in the Extreme Esteem Workshop which can also be custom tailored to a special group:

Energy Leeches and Emotional Predators

Goal Setting

Overcoming Fear

Sociability

Releasing the Past

Deserving Happiness

Dealing Effectively with Frustration

Changing People

Dealing with Loneliness

Being in the Now - Living in the Moment

Investing your Time and Energy

Acknowledging your Gifts

Bad Luck or Bad Choices

Check Your Self-Talk

A Positive Mental Attitude

Understanding Anger

Freedom from Stress

Follow the Follower

Freedom

Guilt

Loser/User - Playing the victim role

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You can have anything you want in life if you will help enough other people get what they want. ~Zig Ziglar, American Sales Trainer, Author, Motivational Speaker